10 Most Commonly asked Sex-Related Questions

Sex is a ‘shhhhh-word’ for many of us and this is the reason why most of us feel shy of discussing our sexual troubles with each other, or even with a doctor at times! However, it has been found that one in five women have troubles during sex or face some or the other kind of sexual issues. These issues can be related to your partner’s sexual behavior or about having pain during the act or even about not feeling satisfied after having sex. Well, if you too have any such issues, this article is just for you. Read on and find an answer to your query right away!

10 Common Sex Queries and their Answers:

  1. I don’t feel like having sex any longer! Why is it so?

  • The reasons for the sexual drive going down can be many, ranging between physical and psychological. Most of the times, when people have any kind of physical troubles or are under stress and pressure, they tend to lose their sexual drive. In women, this can also be when they start feeling a restraint in their relationship or after they have delivered a child and start feeling low about their changed physique. Many of these situations are short-spanned and one can overcome them with time or by taking help of excitement-inducing materials like porn, erotic reading materials etc. However, in cases where the trouble is long lasting, one should meet a relationship expert or a doctor and discuss the issue in complete detail.

  1. Why do I feel sharp pain during penetration?

  • Sharp pain during penetration is mostly caused by vaginal dryness or the lack of lubrication in the vagina. This happens in most cases due to the intake of certain kinds of medications (those for depression, allergies and cold) and contraceptives. These drugs lead the vaginal juices to dry up, making one feel pain during sex. The condition can be dealt with by the use of water-based lubricants or by taking a warm-water bath before having sex.

  1. Why do I feel so itchy down there before and during the act?

  • Infections in the vaginal region can lead to itchiness and irritation in the private parts. This could also be a sign of yeast infection that occurs due to the consumption of antibiotics or because of having oral sex too often. It is suggested that when you face such a condition, you should hold not have sex for a few days and get a proper diagnosis done for the problem from a recognized medical practitioner.

  1. I feel pressure against my vaginal wall during penetration, leading to extreme pain. What is that?

  • While this might lead you to feel that your vagina is too small to hold his penis, this is not what it really means! This kind of a sensation is experienced when your vagina is still not ready to hold the penetration and you just rush into the act. It should be known that your vagina expands more than double its size during the act and when you reach the climax too early, you are more likely to experience such pain. Hence, it would be a nice idea to indulge in some elaborate foreplay to arouse your body fully and finally be able to enjoy sex completely!

  1. Why do I seem to have lost my desire to have sex?

  • Losing the desire to have sex can be due to psychological stress or due to physical issues and the intake of medications for resolving those. Most of the times, one tends to get the sexual desire back as soon as these psychological and physical issues resolved. Also, one can try to experiment with new sexual positions and the use of props during the act to spice up your sex life. However, in case one is not able to work on these issues easily, then a sex-specialist must be consulted.

  1. Why do I feel pain during sex since the time I have had my baby?

  • Blame it on the hormones! Your shooting estrogen levels make your vagina drier and its walls prone to tears. Also, if you have undergone an episiotomy during your delivery, you could feel pain while having sex. If this happens with you, it would be wise to hold on to your sexual drive for some time as it is most likely that your body is not yet ready for an intercourse. Using lubricants can also help in dealing with the situation.

  1. I feel sharp, cutting pain in the outer regions of the vagina during intercourse. Why?

  • This is not physical, but a psychological condition, known as ulvodynia, a nervous system disorder. The catch about this condition is that it resembles yeast infection to a great extent and is often confused with it even by the doctors. However, using a vibrator in the vulva region and using medicines to control nerve sensitivity can help in dealing with this situation. Also, remember that using too many chemical products is a complete no-no if you are facing such a condition.

  1. We finish off with the act within 2 minutes itself! What do I do to make him last longer? Is medication the only cure?

  • This mostly happens when men masturbate too early during the act, leading to unsatisfying sexual experience. In such a case, it is appropriate for the couple to choose positions in which the woman takes control of the situation. Also, indulging in a light foreplay is also recommended to lift up the mood. Mostly, such a situation, can be handled by taking up behavioral measures and one may not need to take any medication for it.

  1. I find my vagina tightening up during the act. Why does this happen?

  • This is a symptom of vaginismus, a condition in which the muscles in the vagina tighten up during penetration, making it nearly impossible to have sex. It is recommended that those troubled with this condition should undertake pelvic floor exercise to stretch their vaginal muscles. Also, they should use their fingers or a tampon to stretch the vaginal muscles and prep them before having sex.

  1. I notice rashes around my vulva after having sex and that also gets itchy at times; why so?

  • This is an allergic reaction, most probably due to the use of latex condoms. It is also quite possible that you are allergic to your partner’s semen, which is leading to such allergic reactions. In order to treat the condition, you could use synthetic rubber or natural lambskin condoms, instead of latex. If in case, this is because of your partner’s semen, then the best way to treat this is to indulge in sex more often as that would make your body accept the semen and slowly it would stop being allergic to it.